Showing posts with label TED. Show all posts
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Thursday, November 4, 2010

The Journey Into Why: A Chat with Simon Sinek October 2010

The Journey Into Why: A Chat with Simon Sinek
October 2010
by Marcie Peters



What inspires people to accomplish, succeed, lead, and try to change the world? What motivates people to make certain decisions? With copious consumer choices, how do you find and keep loyal customers? What makes someone a leader?

One of the most sought-after speakers in America today, Simon Sinek, has been intent on formulating the answers to such questions. Simon, who is slated to speak in San Diego on November 6, 2010 at the University of San Diego (Joan Kroc Institute of Peace and Justice) for the Indigo Village charity foundation, is the author of the book released in 2009: Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action. He is a marketing and leadership expert, prolific writer, and charismatic speaker featured on MSNBC, CNN, National Public Radio, Success Television and TED.com (see Simon’s TED speech). Simon graciously took a few moments from his hectic schedule to elaborate on the message that has been sweeping the country.



Q: Simon, I understand that this has been a very personal journey for you. Could you tell us your story and how you came up with the idea for "Why"? 

A: My journey started about four and a half years ago when I lost my passion for what I was doing. From all superficial standards I should have felt great about what I was doing – I owned my own business, which was going well and had amazing clients and produced quality work…but I didn’t feel like getting out of bed in the morning. Through a lucky confluence of events, I discovered a pattern: all great and inspiring leaders and organizations exist on three levels: what they do, how they do it, and why they do it. I realized that I knew what I did and how I did it but didn’t know why I did it. I became obsessed with this idea. Until I knew why I couldn’t be whole. Then I discovered that this idea was not just a theory but was based on biology [reference to the Golden Circle: the limbic brain – the decision-making part of the brain that governs behavior, trust and loyalty – and how it corresponds to why].

Once I realized my why – to inspire people to do what inspires them – I stopped talking about what I do, and began telling people about what I believe instead. Not only did it restore my passion, but it started having a profound effect on my career. I shared the idea with friends and they started making changes in their lives, and they invited me to share it with their friends. People kept inviting me to share with them what I had learned. And for me, the challenge was no longer what to do but how to I find all the great ways to bring this to life. And that set in motion what is now a very surreal life. I now receive two to four speaking requests per day. Prior to four years ago, the amount of speaking I did was minimal. There’s nothing more incredible, more fulfilling than being able to share something that has so profoundly changed my life with others. I get emails, I hear and see the impact of this message. I don’t think I invented anything; I put words to something that makes it actionable. To be able to share this with others is the greatest journey there can be. 
  
Q: What is your inspiration? 

A: The thing that inspires me is the thing I give to the world. Ninety percent of people don’t feel fulfilled by the work that they do. And I’ve been there, I’ve been a part of that ninety percent… but I think that number is way too high. I understand that the world is imperfect, but that number is way too high. I want to see that number reversed; I want to live in a world where ninety percent of people feel fulfilled by the work they do and the life they live. That is now my absolute devotion - to connect with people, find and encourage the leaders and organizations that can help change that statistic. To find the organizations that start with why and create cultures where people love to work there. Anyone who wants to can carry the message and join the movement – we are going to change the world and reverse that statistic. 

Q: How do you think your message differs from old adages such as "follow your dreams" or "do what you love" or "find your passion and the money will follow"?

A: It’s all true but my message is more actionable.  The only people who say to do what you love are already doing what they love. We all know to follow our passions – it’s true, that’s not the problem. But how is it actionable? If we knew how to do it, we would all do it. It’s not the theoretical construct that’s the problem. The problem is that people don’t know how to follow their dreams or find what they love. What you love or are passionate about comes from somewhere and is grounded in something. I want to help people get to that place and find that thing [their why].

Q: What has been the biggest surprise or lesson to you on this journey?

A: The biggest surprise is that regardless of who I speak with - military or non-profit or individuals or entrepreneurs - all the problems are exactly the same. They are all human being problems. People are all looking for fulfillment and to find others who believe what they believe, people they can trust, and to feel a part of something. Every organization likes to believe that their problems are unique, but I’ve learned they are all the same at the core. 

Q: What is the best way for college students to utilize or implement your message?

A: College students are at a unique crossroads because their “why” is not fully formed. Most students ask themselves the wrong question. Instead of asking what do I want to do, the question is why do I do what I do? Once you answer this question, they can apply it. College students should evaluate why they like certain professors, what clubs do they love being a part of, what about the college experience do they love, who are their mentors and why? Start noticing the commonalities. The earlier you start figuring this out, the more fulfillment you can have for the rest of your life. And ultimately that will lead to greater success and happiness. 

Q: What is the best way for parents to integrate and pass on this philosophy to their children??

A: To talk about it. A husband and a wife can explicitly pass on beliefs and values to their children. The more explicit the parents are about their values and beliefs, the more they will get passed on to their kids. 

Q: What does faith mean to you?

A: Faith in yourself, in religion, and in others are all the same thing: undying belief. Faith is undying belief in wanting to be part of a cause. The more you can find and surround yourself with people who believe what you believe, the more you have undying faith, which is a source of charisma. Charisma is the undying belief in something that is bigger than yourself. Those with deep faith have charisma. 

Q: How do you see this movement progressing?

A: Fast and big! What is important to me is that the message/movement goes automatically. I’m not the only one who can do it or should do it. Those who believe what I believe should take up arms and pass it on to others. The way the movement will grow is by not having to be about me – it’s bigger than any one person. 

To see Simon Sinek in person and hear more about his journey into Why and how it’s changing the world, plan on attending Indigo Village’s annual ‘It Takes A Village to Create Change’ conference being held November 6, 2010. Simon’s keynote speech will be followed by a question and answer forum. You’ll also have access to 17 breakout sessions by leaders in the field of health, nutrition, self-empowerment, parenting, and more.  

Founded in 2005 by Susie Walton (who has raised five boys including L.A. Laker Luke Walton), Indigo Village is committed to inspiring positive change and peace in the community and the world by empowering individuals, families and parents through education, personal development, holistic health modalities, and life-changing experiences. To learn more about the event and the non-profit Indigo Village Educational Foundation, to purchase event tickets, or to donate to the cause, call 760-633-3754 or visit www.villageconference.com.



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Friday, October 29, 2010

Indigo Village Educational Foundation Event

Come help support families and educational programing on our community at the Indigo Village Educational Foundation fundraising event called "It Takes a Village to Create Change".  This event takes place November 6, 2010 at the Joan Kroc Institute of Peace and Justice at the University of San Diego (5998 Alcala Park) from 8:30am - 4:30pm.


Want to know more about this Organization?  The Organization is called the Indigo Village Educational Foundation and they are based in Encinitas, CA. Their president, Susie Walton, has been a local parenting expert in the San Diego area for over 20 years. She happens to also be the Mother of Los Angeles Laker, Luke Walton, who also grew up in SD.



This event "It Takes a Village to Create Change" started 3 years ago with the infamous saying, "It takes a village to raise a child." This is Susie's favorite quote as she has built Indigo Village and the Foundation in order to support families and educational programing on our community. The Foundation holds fundraisers throughout the year in order to raise funds to go towards scholarships in programs like our "Redirecting Children's Behavior" Parenting Program and our "Remembrance Course" Personal Development Program.  All scholarship recipients have to go through an application process and are targeted towards communities where access and funding of these types of programs are limited. We believe that change starts with us.  Their mantra is, "Work with children and impact one child at a time. Work with parents and impact generations."


Simon Sinek will be their keynote speaker for this event.  He has a pretty large presence on the East Coast. He is a leadership expert, Author of "Start With Why" and is a columnist for various publications.  He will be talking about his message of "How great leaders inspire action" and how it ties into the sustainability of a movement, such as the Foundation's cause.



Here are just a few things to look forward to when you purchase your ticket.



  • 45 minute Keynote Presentation by leadership expert and Author of "Start With Why", Simon Sinek! Along with a 45 minute Question and Answer Forum! Simon has been featured on: CNN, TED.com and Success Television!
  • Access to over 17 workshop break-out sessions by our hand-picked professional presenters
  • Continental Breakfast and full Lunch
  • Access to over 15 Exhibitors and their services and products
  • Photography Exhibit on site, featuring "Stirring the Fire" a global movement to empower Women and Girls.
  • Gift bags with offers and opportunities from local businesses and organizations
  • A chance to network with professionals and organizations committed to creating positive change in our community.
  • Much, much more!






Friday, October 15, 2010

You can Discipline and Stay Close with Your Kids and Make a Great Family Team

Myth One: Discipline Creates Distance This myth is old, but true if you were raised in an autocratic household. In this type of household, the parent was the boss and if you did not obey you were punished. By the time you were a teen many of us were not that connected to our parents and we certainly did not share information with them about what was going on in our life. Do you know that the majority of teens want to go to their parents when they have a problem or concern? Mot of thme do not fear being yelled at, lectured, grounded, or knowing their parent will not sleep for the next three months if they do, so it is not worth going to them!


New Idea: You can Discipline and Stay Close with Your Kids and Make a Great Family Team
So, how do we discipline and stay connected? In that moment when you want to yell or you are so frustrated that you feel like spanking or putting kid's in 'time out', pause a moment. In that moment, take some deep breaths, or walk away for a few seconds to self-calm. Then ask yourself the question, "Do I want to create distance or closeness right now?"

Teaching Point:
We distance ourselves from our children when we yell, threaten, shame or blame them. An example is when we yell with an angry or frustrated tone, “How many times have I told you not to spill your milk!” That may take care of the problem, but they will feel disconnected from you.

There are other healthier ways of disciplining than yelling or spanking, which is what we often do when we are frustrated. The pause is important here because it allows us to respond to the situation instead of just reacting. In that pause some options are: take a deep breath, count to 10, take a sip of water, or maybe just get eye level with your child. Do what works best for you.

In that moment, think to yourself, “I can discipline and stay connected.” Instead of saying, “How many times have I told you not to spill your milk,” you might say, “Lets figure out a different way for you to be able to pour your milk and keep it from spilling.” Or, “Okay, so you spilled the milk, what needs to be done to get it cleaned up?”

Story: Chocolate Floor
My three-year old son and I were in the kitchen and he dropped a half-full container of Chocolate Nesquik mix on the kitchen floor. As taught in my Redirecting Children's Beahavior (RCB) class by Susie, instead of yelling at my child and creating distance, I paused a moment and took a deep breath. I then looked at him and said, “What do you need to do with that?” He proceeded to get the scooper and scooped up all of the chocolate mix off the floor. Then I handed him a spray bottle of water and he sprayed it all with water and scrubbed it. It was pretty cool.

TIPS:
1. Seek to understand before being understood, (be curious)
2. Remember to pause so you can respond instead of react
3. When pausing: breathe,count to ten, or step away for a moment.
4. Ask kids questions rather then telling them what to do.
5. Use mistakes as an opportunity to teach
6. Have fun
7. Breathe


Indigo Village
www.villageconference.com
www.facebook.com/Indigovillage
twitter.com/IndigoVillage

Thursday, October 7, 2010

Create Change by Investing in Yourself!

Just for a moment imagine being a part of a shared experience, along with many others in your community who care about change…being part of a grassroots movement that could affect the world in a decisive and positive way.

I recently heard about a neat-sounding conference called “It Takes a Village to Create Change.” This annual event is being held Saturday, November 6, 2010 at the University of San Diego; the goal of the organization is to create positive change in individuals and the community by transforming self, family, personal relationships, community and the world. An ambitious goal, but change must start somewhere, after all. I just love the purpose put forth by this group at Indigo Village who even created a non-profit foundation in order to assist those who cannot afford the many excellent self-development and parenting programs they provide.

The keynote speaker is someone everyone is talking about (at least in my circles). After watching his TED speech, I immediately bought Simon Sinek’s newly released book, “Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action.” This is an amazingly articulate man with an interesting quantification of a very simple idea – a powerful paradigm shift that could help many businesses and individuals become more successful, influential, and inspirational. Click here to learn more and see Simon’s TED speech – and prepare to get psyched to see him in person!

In addition to the amazing keynote speaker, the breakout sessions should further prove to be insightful and educational. Indigo Village has put together an outstanding lineup: several doctors are speaking, a clinical nutritionist, psychologists, parenting experts, and life coaches, among others. Topics range from exploring how thinking affects success, life and money, dealing with life’s natural cycle of pain and healing, raising happy children, how to build a green community, raising spirited kids, exploring your relationship with food, helping tweens deal with hormones, cyber-bullying of youths, couples communication, and “flat earth” medicine.

I also want to say that I have personally taken many of the programs offered by Indigo Village (Redirecting Children’s Behavior, The Remembrance Course, Freedom to Be), and they are all excellent, even a catalyst for healing, and worth checking into www.indigovillage.com.
Tickets are discounted if you buy them ahead of time, and include continental breakfast and lunch. Check out www.villageconference.com for information, to buy tickets, or to make a donation. Let the change begin with yourself!

Indigo Village
www.villageconference.com
www.facebook.com/Indigovillage
twitter.com/IndigoVillage