All parents want the best for their children. When I had my first child at the age of 24 I knew I wanted the best for him, however, I never took the time to ask myself, “What does wanting the best for my child really mean to me?” When I finally sat down and asked myself this question, I realized that what I wanted for my child and what I was able to provide for my child were two different things.
The fact is we all have limiting beliefs that are developed by the age of 7. In my book, Key to Personal Freedom, How Myths Affect Our Family Lives, I give examples of some of these limiting beliefs. One example that many of us can identify with is the belief that 'Mistakes' are Bad.
If you can think back to when you were a child, and remember getting in trouble whenever you made a mistake ex: spilled your milk or didn't make it to the bathroom on time, there is a good chance you have the belief that mistakes are bad. So the way that this mistaken belief gets implemented with your kids is when someone makes a mistake, especially when you are tired... there goes your serenity and we often end up yelling at our kids.
Another myth I often see is 'A good parent never thinks of her or him self first". If this is a belief of yours you will end up stressed out and not having a whole lot of fun raising your kids.
This is why I find it extremely important to do some personal growth work before baby comes, (or for those of you who already have kids the sooner the better). At Indigo Village, we have a weekend seminar called, The Remembrance Course. The sole purpose of this course is for you to experience the freedom of letting go of core issues and limiting beliefs and replacing them with new beliefs that will give you the freedom to create the life and the family of your dreams.
I recommend this course to just about all the couples and families that I see in my practice. In gaining some awareness around your core issues, we are then able to look at new beliefs we would like to create in order to produce the outcome that we desire the most. Some new beliefs you would want to anchor in from our previous examples is that 'Mistakes' are actually wonderful opportunities to learn and grow from, or that taking care of yourself helps you be a better parent.
Ultimately, what gets in the way of allowing our kids to experience their own journey is us! These limiting beliefs get in the way of parenting our children the way we want to parent. Being proactive about your core beliefs is a responsibility that every parent should think about for themselves and for their family. –Susie Walton
